No one is you and that’s your superpower.

Good morning all today I bring you my blog from the malvern beacon..

So much peace and quite here its truly a place that’s saved me after the last 8 months I feel like I’ve completely changed as a person.

The old Stacey has gone, the broken Stacey has now started to heal, you never really know how much you allow someone to take your soul and slowly crush it in there hands until you cut ties and finally open your eyes.

I love the fact I’m allowed to be myself again I’m smiling more and I’m greatful for everything life offers me however big or small the opportunity.

I wanted to come up here today to get inspiration and clarity.

And that’s what I’ve done… What want to say to you all if your having a rough time at the moment don’t forget to take time out for youself take time out to breathe.

Remember your situation is only temporary life changes in a heartbeat.

Be grateful for the love you give and the the love you receive.

Be kind to the ones around you smile at least 5 times a day and laugh at the stupidest of things because life’s short

Release the past, embrace the present and be excited about your future.

I’m sending each of you a massive virtual hug remember never give up..

Love to you all

Stacey xx

You just don’t get it…

Evening all

Hope you’re all well tonights post is also about the D yes dating.

Over 18’s only tonight..

You know how it is you breakup with someone you spend sometime healing, soul searching and then your ready to be thrown back out into the shark pit.

That’s exactly what it is a flipping shark pit.

It’s a world of sexual advances, have you got Snapchat & Shitty small talk.

Don’t get me started on cheesy chat up lines… Get your coat love you have pulled..

Who put 50 pence in that dickhead.

I dont hate men Infact I’ve got some great male friends but honestly dating is like finding a needle in a haystack.

I’m looking for a connection with someone a proper one.

I’ve recently got out of an on off eleven years connection with someone who had more red flags than Jimmy savil.

So this time round I’m hoping to get it right.

So there’s this qoute in dating everyone hates and it’s….

I’ve been ghosted that many times it’s starting to make me really hate my favourite season yes Halloween..

I get it we all have likes and dislikes in life that’s perfectly normal but if your waiting for the perfect person I’m going to burst your bubble here no such thing.

Who’s perfect no one we all have faults.

Trouble is these days everything is so easy accessible.

We have all been there my experience with tinder alone should of made me want to die alone surrounded by fifty cats.

But little old me keeps on going I’m waiting for my knight in shining armor all I keep getting is pricks in tin foil where relationship are concerned.

I’m pretty much out spoken I don’t hide anything if I like someone I like someone.

And I just go for it.

And all this it’s all about timing business time what time What the hell you waiting for the rise of atlantis mate not going to happen.

I’m not saying get married week after you meet plan four babies and get white rangerover.

But I just don’t get it men play it that cool then end up freezing the whole situation and then wonder whats gone wrong.

I get it people have been hurt in past relationships and…

But not everyone is the same as your ex there still are genuinely nice people out there who will show you real love and real connection.

But your not going to get perfection everyone has flaws.

If there is anyone out there that reads my blog knows how brutally truthful I am about my personal life.

I dont talk about everything in detail but if someone asks ill be honest.

This dating lark sucks lot of pushing and shoving you always get very little in the end.

And on that note if you have any dating stories you would like to share with me please comment below.

Ide love to know I’m not swimming in the shark pit alone.

Love to you all

Stacey xx

Faith over fear

Heya everyone I’m back to my late night blogging again.

Tonight post is all about having faith over fear.

Stop procrastinating over what could go wrong, instead think of what could go right.

You get one chance to live this lifetime, you guys know I’m a big believer of what you put out to the universe will come back to you.. So if you always put negativty out you will only attract negative energy.

Most people in life have passed on something or someone that could of been a chance of a lifetime just beacause they fear of what could go wrong.

With great opportunites comes a great risk but isn’t that the excitement of it all.

Life doesn’t come with a manual even the wisest of people sometimes get it wrong.

Everyone’s experienced heartbreak, rejection and disappointment. So the natural reaction is to be extremely cautious about every aspect of life.

Isn’t it crazy how one life experience can consume your whole life.

Well your OK to hurt and be angry for a short time but life goes on, your life experiences grow you as person you will heal in time but you must hold faith and understanding that every process we go through makes us stronger and better.

After all the hurt and pain I’ve been through in my life time it’s not made me a bitter person Infact it’s done the total opposite its made me a stronger and more understanding person.

As I start my new path to life and love I’m finding my understanding of life has completely changed.

It’s made me realise that I can’t fix what’s always been broken, it’s made me realise how much you hold on you end up hurting the most. And that some human beings are just shitty human beings it’s just how they vibe and I don’t vibe with that.

I’m realising that I deserve to be happy, I deserve to show the real me, there’s someone out there for me who will just completely get me and last bit least that positivity will always over shine the darkness.

You just got to have faith and follow your own instincts they never lie.

Love to you all

Stacey xx

In time everything will make perfect sense.

It’s 3am and at this time of day my mind is still so active..

They say in time everything will make perfect sense, whoever come up with that qoute would of probably been a very wise person, with a lot of life experience.

The universe doesn’t send us situations that we cannot overcome, nor does it send us people we can’t deal with, that’s a known fact.

Every struggle or situation we have thrown our way has its very own lesson to be learnt from , In order for us to evaluate and evolve into better human beings.

These experiences can be painful, overwhelming, scary and life changing.

But it’s the way you deal with the situation and how you heal and progress overtime that shapes the pathway onto the next stage of your life.

We learn alot about ourselves during our struggles in life, you also find out who really cares for you during the difficult times.

We can get so wrapped up in how society expects us to look,act and live during our lifetimes we never really truly find happiness within ourselves.

Going through my own life changing experience recently I’ve found out a few things about myself, At the time I didn’t really realise how unhappy I truly was within myself, I felt like I was trapped in someone else’s life and I hated it.

It’s the little things that matter in life like loyalty, respect, admiration, and your own personal achievement however big or small they maybe.

When the false mask slips and you show who you really are you can either let it expose you or you can let it shape you into a better version of yourself.

In time situations from your past will make you understand the lessons you needed to learn in life to push you onto you new chosen path.

Trust in yourself and listen to your own emotions.

I’m so ready to move on to the next stage in my life I’m ready to be happy again and achieve as much as I can.

And most importantly learn to love freely again.

Love to you all

Stacie xx

There’s only one queen of this castle!!!

Hello everyone it’s me again hope your all well.

I’m sat in my back garden in the gorgeous sunshine.. I’ve had a great sleep worked out and I’m ready for the rest of the day.

How my life has changed over the past few months.

And my god how strong I’ve got during the process.

Sometimes the illusion of how you want life to be really hides the truth behind the situation.

And my situation wasn’t good in fact it was a part of my life that I’ve learnt alot from.

It’s taught me everything I don’t want from a life partner.

It’s taught me how much you do for some people it’s never enough.

It’s taught me alot about myself, that I don’t need to compress myself to be perfect for someone whos only intention was to break my spirit and my self esteem by gaslighting me.

To the right person I’ll be everything and more.

I laugh alot more now and my girls can see I’m alot happier and they are happier too.

I can’t say it was all bad at the start but after nearly 11 years the doors firmly closed and I’m ready to move on and finally breathe again.

Whatever people think about me I really don’t care always remember there’s two sides to a story and you will find out for your self soon enough.

Least I’m glad now the universe has put me on the right path.

Look out in the future for my little family adventures, dating stories and much more.

Love to you all ❤️❤️

Stacie x

She’s Back

Hello Everyone , Long time I know I can only apologise for my absence , life gets in the way and the universe always throws us a curve ball to see how strong we really are.

I honestly think I was a total mare in my past life , I must of been life’s testing me to the max at the moment.

So this is just a recap of where I’m at …

I moved three weeks ago lets just say its been a whirlwind of emotions but ive had to pull my socks up and get on with it.

I moved with my two girls a beautiful part of the Worcestershire countryside Malvern Hills.

We have a lovely home which needs a lot of Decorating but I will be doing some great home blogs in the near future.

I recently become an auntie again to my sisters gorgeous second baby girl welcome to the world baby Molly.

This Term of blogging I will be focusing on all aspects of life , home décor, fashion and any subject’s in between I will also be keeping you updated with my Career and how that unfolds.

Myself in general some days I have great days other days I have really sad days but the sad days I pick myself up and go for a walk to clear my head, One thing ive leant from this part of my journey is that its unhealthy to keep things bottled up and act like I’m ok to please others.

If I’m not ok I pick the phone up and talk I find talking helps.

You will never try and understand someone else’s mind ive learnt that it doesn’t matter how much you pull the situation apart you will never get to the root cause.

So there’s no point pulling yourself apart you have to just pull yourself back together and heal from the outside in.

In the end what will be will be …..

Love To you All

Stacie xx

The Undoing

Hey everyone it’s been a while!!

I wanted to blog today about life and its ability to unravel in front of your eyes.

Wouldn’t it be perfect if life was simple and so straight forward.
If you could happily store all your good memories on your very own brain vision board and store all the bad ones in a tightly secure safe tucked away and surrounded by crocodiles never to be seen again.

Well life and the universe has a funny way of showing us if we are heading down a dark and disastrous path.

It’s called Karma and my god does she bite.

Overtime we become less aware of our own situations and our own patterns of behaviour.

Until one day the situation switches and your the one with everything to loose and nothing much to gain.

Relationships and friendships aren’t always perfect every single living thing on the planet has flaws.

Even a butterfly.


But what you must remember is that it’s not your job to fix or control everything or everyone, its your job to be the best possible version of yourselves and to show compassion and understanding.

Listen to others and by that I mean truly listen and admit when your wrong.

It’s OK to make mistakes but learn from them, Set healthy boundaries.

Remember to take time out if you need to heal your soul.



If the boxes of your life start to unravel yes I would suggest you be prepared the best way you can but always remember that change comes from within not always from what’s around.

Love to you all

Stacie x

Break

Please read ❤️

It comes to everyone in a lifetime where you just need time away from all the chaos, it’s both exhausting and emotionally draining to try and act like you have all your ducks in a row.

I will be putting everything on the back burner for now.

I’ve worked so hard at my blog will continue to do so in all due course.

My daily routine of my work will resume whilst i work on other areas of my life.
Please understand that at this stage I won’t be able to contact anyone until I’m ready to.

Thank you for all your love and support i will be back soon.

Have a wonderful Christmas sending my love to you all ❤️

How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

Not perfect always me!!

Good evening everyone.

I don’t know about my other lovely blog friends but I’ve been finding it very hard to blog as of late it’s partly because of the situation we are all in and the fact that it’s been a very boring few months.

It’s certainly been an emotional experience.

I have seen such a massive change in myself.

I’ve always been so focused on looking and being perfect I’ve been forgetting to live in the moment.

I think this might be to past relationships and the pressure to always look and be perfect.

I’ve masked who I really was.

Dont get me wrong I can be hardwork sometimes but I have a heart of gold and I love and care unconditionally.

I need to say one thing to all my readers.

Always being worried of what people think of you is the worst emotional blockage you will ever have to try and  remove.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to look and be perfect its exhausting.

Social media plays a massive part on the way we see ourselves.


Put on that fake smile girl and get them hearts.

It’s taken me a long time to love this skin that intwines my bones.

My belly still jiggles a little and my bum still wiggles.

And I can go from dignified to jenny from the block within seconds.

But my quirky ways and my pure heart and my ability to bring a smile to another humans face is what matters most.


In all of us is a little bit of silly and a yearning of sweatpants hair up and chilling with no make up on.

You just need someone who appreciates your soul and not someone who picks you beacause you look good on thier arm.

Looks grow old but the soul stays the same

Be comfortable with who you are.

I’m 75% stronger than I used to be, I know my worth and my confidence grows.

I realised that I needed to….



Love to you all

Stacie xx

Be wonderful be you 💞💞💞👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨