Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.
Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.
I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.
You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.
It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.
Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.
It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.
I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.
That has these traits….
During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.
So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.
I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.
This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.
1. Go no contact.
This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.
2. Be uninterested
This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.
3. Keep it simple.
If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!
4. Walk away when their manipulative.
Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.
5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.
If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.
All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.
6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.
The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.
Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!
Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.
7. Live your life.
Work on you, focus on you, build your future!
Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.
Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.
Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.
Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!
One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.
I don’t know about my other lovely blog friends but I’ve been finding it very hard to blog as of late it’s partly because of the situation we are all in and the fact that it’s been a very boring few months.
It’s certainly been an emotional experience.
I have seen such a massive change in myself.
I’ve always been so focused on looking and being perfect I’ve been forgetting to live in the moment.
I think this might be to past relationships and the pressure to always look and be perfect.
I’ve masked who I really was.
Dont get me wrong I can be hardwork sometimes but I have a heart of gold and I love and care unconditionally.
I need to say one thing to all my readers.
Always being worried of what people think of you is the worst emotional blockage you will ever have to try and remove.
We put so much pressure on ourselves to look and be perfect its exhausting.
Social media plays a massive part on the way we see ourselves.
Put on that fake smile girl and get them hearts.
It’s taken me a long time to love this skin that intwines my bones.
My belly still jiggles a little and my bum still wiggles.
And I can go from dignified to jenny from the block within seconds.
But my quirky ways and my pure heart and my ability to bring a smile to another humans face is what matters most.
In all of us is a little bit of silly and a yearning of sweatpants hair up and chilling with no make up on.
You just need someone who appreciates your soul and not someone who picks you beacause you look good on thier arm.
Looks grow old but the soul stays the same
Be comfortable with who you are.
I’m 75% stronger than I used to be, I know my worth and my confidence grows.
I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy
Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.
I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.
All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.
Weekly vision message
Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.
I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.
The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.
The silence is deafening.
But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.
I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.
As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.
Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.
That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.
You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.
Tarot Card Connection
With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.
The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.
There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.
Justice In Reverse
Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.
If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.
Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.
Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.
Five of Wands Reversed
The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.
Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.
On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.
Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.
If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.
Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.
If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.
Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.
It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living.
You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.
Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment.
In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires.
Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.
There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.
There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.
If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.
Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.
Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.
Page Of Pentacles
When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.
Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.
She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.
When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.
Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.
It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.
In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it.
In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.
The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.
Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.
Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.
If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.
While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.
The Seven Of Wands
The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle
The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.
The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.
This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.
There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.
The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.
You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.
Bottom Of The Deck
The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.
It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.
Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.
The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.
You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.
The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.
Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.
This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.
The empress stems from the element of earth.
The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.
When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.
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Tomorrow will be a start to a brand new week I’m feeling a lot of positivity from the universe at the moment, I feel the dynamics have somewhat changed , there has been a huge transitional shift .
Out with the negativity and the darkness and in comes the light at the end of the road.
For a lot of you it seems like a lifetime in waiting for such clarity and understanding of your own soul.
A lot more of you have opened your minds to what’s around you , this I feel is from you having time away from normal daily routine , as we all know life hasn’t been normal for all of us for a while now , but take one good thing from this pandemic its made us have time to sit and evaluate our lives and look at situations differently, for many of us it’s given us the power of voice and to allow our true selves to shine through braking down the false veil that we all shield behind.
I would like to state that all my spiritual guidance blogs are for entertaiment purpose only.
Take what resonates and leave the rest.
All signs and elements are included.
Weekly Vision Message
I’m standing in busy old fashioned train station , I can hear the steam from the engines and I can smell the burning of the coal.
There is a lot of people rushing around in all directions trying to get to their destinations.
As I approach my platform I can feel and see the sadness from loved ones saying goodbye to each other, also hugs of reassurance to.
As I reach my train I hesitate ,I take one deep breath and step aboard.
I’m feeling nervous and scared, will everything be ok , will I return again , Will things remain the same.
This message I feel is linked to long distance love connections , I feel a few of you are really struggling with this situation at the moment , if your in a relationship or apart from someone you wish to have a connection with then this is a message for you.
Time and distance can never come between true love connections , if the two of you are determined and wanting to make your situation work then it will, Trust is needed to build a solid foundation everything else comes from trust and loyalty.
As long as you both put the effort into this connection distance or time will never come between you.
Its frustrating not making plans for your intermediate future but have faith and be willing to make time for each other in other ways and remain truthful and honest to one another.
The universe is reassuring you that everything will work out fine….
When the World card is reversed it symbolizes imperfection, lack of vision, and disappointment.
The result of the project is imperfect, disappointing, and lacks vision.
Or you are having trouble reaching your goal.
You may be frustrated and tempted to take a shortcut, but that will only lead to more frustration, and you won’t be happy with the result.
The world in reverse in love I feel with the world in reverse regarding your love life , is that your pushing away your soul mate due to fear , you don’t feel you both can overcome this situation.
So you are shutting down regarding your connection.
If your single this can mean your not ready to commit , your not interested in sharing your life with anyone at the moment.
When the Two of Swords is reversed in a Tarot reading, it can mean you are being indecisive.
There might be fear and confusion.
It might leave you inert and unable to act.
It can also mean that you’re finally seeing something for what it is.
The Two of Swords in reverse is an indication that things are no longer being stalled.
If you’re single, it might mean that you need to choose between two prospective partners and are having trouble deciding.
If you’re in a relationship, it can mean that you and your significant other are at a crossroads and need to decide what comes next.
When the Three of Cups is upright , it signifies feelings around friendship.
It represents community and the network created when we interact with others.
You may find you have a lot of parties and celebrations on your calendar.
This card also means it is time to examine your attachments from an emotional point of view.
The card may also represent all types of support, including giving and receiving help.
The Three of Cups in love is an indication that good times are ahead.
If you’re single, you may find a spark with someone from your past.
If you’ve been in a dry spell, you may find potential partners knocking on your door.
If you’re in a relationship, this card can mean there’s an upcoming celebration of love, such as a wedding or engagement.
When the Lovers card is upright ,it stands for love, harmony, trust, honour, the beginning of romance, and optimism.
It is a card of passion, and feeling passionate, but it isn’t strictly about romantic relationships and intense interpersonal bonds.
One basic meaning of this card is that you may come across a divergence you dare not miss, no matter the difficulty, even if it is against your chosen path.
Be on the lookout for this opportunity, and don’t automatically take the easy road.
Think things over before you come to a decision.
Perhaps it’s time to take a leap of faith.
The Lovers card in a Tarot is seriously romantic.
If you’re single, hang on tight because a red-hot romance is headed to you.
If you’re in a relationship, things are about to heat up between you.
When the Eight of Cups is upright , it is time to realize that the past is gone.
An end is approaching, and what was thought to be permanent is no longer so.
It is time to accept the change that is staring you in the face.
The card signals that it’s time to move on. The only thing permanent in life is change, and everything slips away sooner or later.
The Eight of Cups in love represents feeling’s of abandonment.
If you’re in a relationship, it could mean that you or your partner is ready to walk away.
But I feel communication is needed as I feel that your holding back on your feelings.
If you’re single, it represents loneliness and the inability to allow yourself to thrive in a new relationship.
When the Four of Swords is reversed, it can mean you are finally finding the strength to get through (or out of) something.
It can also indicate that you’re ready to address stress, anxiety, and other things that worry you.
It can also mean taking care of yourself after a long time of not doing so.
The Four of Swords in love is an indication that you are ready to connect or reconnect with a past love !!
If you’re single, it means you might want to take some time to figure out exactly what you want in a partner before welcoming someone new into your life.
If you’re in a relationship, you are entering a period of peacefulness with your partner.
Bottom Of the Deck
When the Tower card is reversed in a Tarot reading, it means that you are stuck in a rut or trapped in a bad situation.
You need to shake things up.
You probably know this, but you have been procrastinating about making a big change.
Take a hard look at habits and traditions that you’ve been following unquestioningly.
Ask yourself how they are holding you back.
And why your scared of following your heart
What can you throw away to make room for something better?
The Tower card in love means profound changes are happening.
If you’re single, it could mean you need to reconstruct yourself from the ground up before you have room for a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship, it might have to end, signalling a breakup or divorce.
Even if the relationship remains standing, it will change fundamentally in some way.
Angel Oracle Message
Any obstacles that you have been experiencing are temporary.
Your guardian angels are taking care of the details to remove them from your path.
Do not worry about the appearance of challenges, because they are just an illusion that will soon disappear.
If you worry excessively about these issues, you will fuel them with power and energy.
See them instead as wispy clouds that can’t really block you.
This is an especially important time for you to stay in steady contact with God and your angels.
Sometimes when we are under stress, we forget to pray and ask for Heaven’s help – yet these are the times when it is best for us to enlist the assistance of our Creator and celestial guides.
It is your angels’ great pleasure to help you to navigate along a smooth path.
They know that you will grow faster in a peaceful setting, just as a plant grows strongest with the optimal nutrients, sunlight, and water.
Your life is becoming more stable with a quieter form of excitement.
The drama of obstacles is now a thing of the past.
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