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She Was Everything Even When She Was Treated Like Nothing…

“Follow your inner moonlight don’t hide the madness.”

Heya all i hope you have had a brilliant weekend ….

I have to say all its done in Merseyside is rain and rain then rain some more…

My plans this weekend went out the window as for going out it was a no go.. Other girls that don’t have natural eyebrows will know what i mean.

So one the firework championships went out the window for Friday night as it was cancelled due to bad weather and drinks on Saturday was also out the window after i decided to start decorating my youngest daughters bedroom on my own.

I dragged my butt of to the local B&Q and struggled with 10L of white paint i literally felt like i had gone ten rounds with Mohammad ali god knows how i managed to paint wallpaper and sort her room out in one day plus put a bloody curtain pole up.

All through my life I’ve had to do a lot of things on my own I left home at the age of sixteen got my own place had to do a lot of growing up quite quickly.

I’m. Not saying my family didn’t help but most the time I didn’t ask for help because I just got on with it and tried to stand on my own two feet.

I’m very stubborn you see and I like things done the way I would do them that’s probably why I am the way I am.

So after a busy Saturday…..

Today all I’ve done is relaxed and watched films and pampered myself.

Oh and chatted to my freind Laura most random chat ever it actually inspired me to watch the Notebook for the 500th time in my life.

She said to me that the character Allie reminds her of me I said why Laura.. She said to me..

Because you never quite know where you are in life and what’s next but you take everything in your stride.

You take chances most people wouldn’t and I admire you for that.

And against all odds you never become unloving and your always forgiving with your sarcasm your bright way of life and never giving up on people you have the biggest heart I know and one day they will realise that.

You will get there in the end!!!

This is where I reminded myself of who exactly I am it doesn’t matter to me what people I care about do to me I always forgive them.

I can never hold hate in my heart and can you ever really let go of the people you love even if they become unloverble?

My answer to that is no and like Allie in the Notebook I’m a free spirit and I hold such passion in my heart for everything I do. I will never hide who Im again.

And I won’t listen to people I will always follow my heart.

I most definitely will never give up on the people I love.

I’ve already lost once before from trying to hide the real me I won’t do that again.

Have a great Monday everyone sending postive hugs out to you all ❤️💖

Love Stacie xxx

You gotta roll with it you gotta take your time…..

Evening all can you see were I’m going with this post yes I honestly do love oasis I feel this song is appropriate for today. This record is from there album what’s the story morning glory. Its called roll with it.

So why do I feel this song is appropriate for today well its all about making peace with yourself and grabbing any chances life throws your way. its also an easy going song that can mean just stop moaning about life and live it

This is exactly where I am now.. take fear out of the equation you become unstoppable.

When you haven’t got anything to loose that’s when you become your most powerful you should never give up on yourself or your goals in life.

Everyone has a blip every now and again as I say a wobble but that’s exactly what it is.

You shouldn’t give up on someone or something you love either just because it gets tough or the situation isn’t ideal.

You are allowed to make mistakes god I’ve made a lot. Few I’ve learnt from some I wish I could find the tardis and turn back time but of course its not possible.

It would be kind of cool though to mess with time and to avoid all the difficult times we have.

But it’s the difficult times we go through that helps us filter out what’s important and whats not.

Helps us find ourselves and each other again.

So in the words of oasis..

Don’t just settle for second best just beacuse reality gets tough go for what you want, who you want and where you want to be.

Good night from Liverpool 🇬🇧

Love to you all 😊

Stacie xx

Fighting you demons

Evening all its nearly the weekend yeyyy

I’ve nearly survived another full week at work it’s not been to bad really but I’ve had a few glasses of wine to see me through. This week I’ve recently connected back with a freind I’ve known for ten years we used to be really good friends then life takes over things happen and you loose touch but I’m really glad we have connected again.

Tonight I have to blog about fighting your demons and ignoring what other people think about you… Sometimes life can be going great you find peace within and out the blue you will get one idiot who will just say something that will start your anxiety off.

It’s not just me who’s delt with this but a few celebrities have dealt with it this week I say 👇👇👇👇

Unfortunately if your doing well in life you will always get someone’s opinion and sometimes it’s not always nice I cannot stress enough on how much stronger I feel and how much less tolerance I now have for negative people.

My life isn’t perfect far from it but I’m in a better place and I’ve worked hard to get out of my dark space that clouded my mind I’ve not seeked medication for depression I’ve not requested a therapist I’ve done everything off my own back.

Each day I’ve become stronger and I will continue to become stronger and I won’t stop till I live my life to the fullest. So do you best try and break me I bet you break yourself first.

The World is full of people never let just a few try and break you nasty words and comments are irrelevant now a few months ago they would of completely broken me but now not a chance.

So I will continue to be me. I will continue to grow and I will continue with my own therapy if you don’t like what you see or hear tough don’t look or listen Ive fought hard to become the person I am today and no one can take that away from me. And I know one day someone will love Me for me nothing more nothing less.

I am me #independentwoman #stronger #trolls #fightyourdemons

So here’s another one of my covers I would like to share with you I hope you like it please show me some love…

Love to you all 😊

Stacie ❤️❤️❤️ xxx

I don’t care I’m going to do it anyway.

Evening all its Monday and I’ve already had a glass of wine….

I had a really good chat with my mom today been a long time coming and she made a really good point.

Saying it doesn’t really matter in life what people do they will always have something to say so you might as well do it anyway that’s so true…

I’m honstly saying now from my heart music has helped me in so many ways and I know completely I’m not 💯 perfect and I’m no Adele but in the words of paloma faith

But you’ve gotta make your own music
Sing your own special song,
Make your own kind of music even if nobody else sings along.

That’s the truth we wasn’t made to all sound the same how boring is that so here is another one of my cover songs

Say something ❤️ hope you enjoy and show me some love ❤️….

Have a great evening everyone wherever you are and remember with a little bit of confidence and a lot of not giving a crap about what others think you will always go far..

Love to you all

Stacie ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ xxx

Fit, fierce and fabulous

Hello 👋

Good evening if your in the UK 🇬🇧

To the rest of the world good morning or good afternoon not quite sure on timezones you all live in but I wish you well.

Just before I retire to bed I wanted to do a little blog about my fitness journey for everyone that doesn’t like fitness this post might not be for you.

Just a heads up there….

So I started on this journey around 10 years ago yes I know that sounds like a very long time but one thing I’ve found about the human body and undoing the harm you cause it that nothing works overnight it takes time energy and most importantly patience.

I literally struggled so hard with motivation infact I still do at times when I’m having a bad day. But I just look back at very old pictures of myself to realise I can never loose my motivation again.

Here’s me doing my ten year challenge.. ❤️🔟💪

I’ve literally worked my butt off to get where I am today with a few wobbles in between and health issues stopping me from progressing but now I’m ready to start pushing myself again.

Believe me I’ve tried everything diet pills classes, constant gym sessions actually starving myself causing more illness to the point I would physically be sick after ever meal I ate all beacuse I was dying to be thin.

The worst experience I had was when I was taking diet pills my heart was beating so fast I physically fainted I really thought I was going to die honestly there isn’t any quick fix to weightloss its all about maintaining a healthy diet and active lifestyle.

Again It was all in aid of me dying to be thin I was so focused on how others might see me I actually put my own life at risk silly really when I think of it now as I really don’t care these days how people see me it’s more for my own wellbeing.

Only downside to loosing weight is the skin your left with mines not too bad but I would like surgery for it to be removed that does knock my self confidence a little but again untill times right there is nothing I can do about it.

I have actually teamed up with future fitness and one of their lovely fitness experts dave is helping me along with my journey.

I’m so happy as I really do struggle when I try and stick to it at home alone so support is what I need.

Best part of my new journey is that I’m training myself to run again its been a while but there is lots of lovely coastal and woodland paths I can train on which will also be good for my mental strength also.

So I’ve ordered myself a good pair of running shoes and a good training sports bra beacuse I’m going to need one..

.So with exercise and heathly eating combined I will be able to reach my full potential along side my gluten free diet.

I would just like to recommend two apps one for meal tracking and other for beginners 5k training.

My fitness pal (on android or istore)

Couch to 5k (on android or istore)

Remember progress is progress however big or small it is..

I just want to say If I can do it anyone can just takes determination and motivation.

Good night from Me and I’m sending you lots of love 😍

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Holding a space 👐

Morning all today Im blogging about the saying holding a space.. But what does it really mean??? 🤔

Holding space means to make it about someone else. Plain and simple.

But most people can not do this. Why? Because we’re used to high jacking spaces. We’re wired to take. To want. To seek from others. We don’t want to accept someone’s opinions and worldviews if they don’t match ours. Especially if we care about them. So we try to convince, control, and manipulate. Maybe not in an obvious way. It can be very subtle. Most likely, we’re not even aware we’re doing it. But we are. We judge. We come in with our own angles, views, wants, and needs. Instead of holding space, we grab it. And sometimes, we disguise it as love.

Holding space means to be with someone without judgment. To donate your ears and heart without wanting anything back. To practice empathy and compassion. To accept someone’s truth, no matter what they are. To allow and accept. Embrace with two hands instead of pointing with one finger. To come in neutral. Open. For them. Not you. Holding space means to put your needs and opinions aside and allow someone to just be herself.

Holding space is a big deal. If people aren’t holding space for you, you are not becoming. Instead, you are surviving. And surviving isn’t living. It’s standing in comfort. Which is called being stuck.

If someone isn’t able to hold space for you, find someone who will.

In all honesty it’s very hard as human beings to give but not want to receive back but unfortunately sometimes we are put in situations where we have to it’s not a very nice place to be but it’s a learning curve in life we must all be hit with at some point.

My advice is to live not just survive do things out your comfort zone find courage from deep within to help you grow and take that leap of faith and to handle what ever the outcome maybe.

Whatever choices in life you make know at least you had taken the risk and if it works out great if not you will overcome and grow from the situation.

But least you won’t regret not taking that chance.

Music is my therapy 🎶 ❤️

Evening all hope your doing well.

I’ve had a relaxing Saturday for a change had a bit of a sleep in then went to my local beach and relaxed for a few hours.

I’m now totally recharged sitting watching nextflix and drinking a nice glass of gin to finish the day off I don’t often have times like this but honstly it’s just what I needed.

I’ve been talking to a lot of people just lately and they have been asking how I’ve managed to get through a really rocky patch in my life infact I told them mostly I just pulled my socks up and got on with it that’s 💯 the truth but once I’m home my mind wonders and that’s when I go to a dark place.

So I found something that helped me get every emotion out of my system without me actually speaking so I decided to sing instead I love singing all different kinds of genre but it’s mostly songs I can relate to.

I wasn’t happy for a very long time still not sure if I really am but Ive found a outlet for my anger and upset and for me it works better than a shrink so it’s a bonus.

You don’t need to understand everything in life just majority of us… want to down to every little detail but honstly sometimes there is no answer.

Just have to find your happy place yourself this song I’ve chosen to share with you kind of speaks from the heart hope you enjoy ❤️❤️🎶

Show me some. Love 😍

Turn the page or close the book

Evening all ❤️

We are half way through the week yeyy. I really Could do with a early night but weither I will get one will be a different story.

It’s been a bit of a strange few days again but less tension surrounding me which is a good thing.

For one minute I really did feel like I was going to break down but again in usual stacie fashion I found the strength from somewhere to pull myself up again.

I wanted to blog about the saying turning the page or closing the book we all have to make this choice at some stage in our life’s but…

Setting your mind and your emotions aside making decisions are very hard you can’t predict the outcome from the start you have to see how things playout.

It would be fantastic if you could then you could avoid terrible situations and people but unfortunately it never works out that way.

It’s your choice to stay on same page or even if you turn the page the book is still open if your Completely done its time to shut the book put it on the shelf and leave it there it’s apart of your past and it holds memories but you can’t keep re reading the past what’s done is done.

I made a choice I stlll stick by it.

my trouble is I never give up on the people I love even if they give up on me. I know if they ever needed me ide be there no questions asked it’s my weakness I care to much.

But taking time out for myself I’ve realised that it’s OK to be selfish it’s OK to put yourself first however vain that may sound.

When your focused on yourself and not on others around you. I promise you, you will see a massive change in yourself you start seeing life from a different perspective you become untouchable and unstoppable.

This is where the magic happens postive attracts postive people who love you will start to become more aware of your confidence and only then will fate bring them back to you your transformation is complete.

Not everyone will understand and that’s OK too sometimes people aren’t meant to be a permanent fixture in our life’s but to be with us temporarily to help us learn and grow its all part of life.

Everything that’s meant for us will always come back to us. It’s the way of the universe.

So if you turn the page or close the book you should be proud of yourself you made progress however big or small it maybe it’s still progress.

Its my skin not your skin

“Self Love Is Accepting That The Body You Where Given Is Enough & Taking Care Of Your Body Isn’t The Same Thing As Obsessively Manipulating It “

Evening all its Tuesday and today wasn’t so bad just busy at work as normal ive not long sat down and ive managed to catch up with emails and messages.

I have been contacted by a lovely lady who moved from the U.K and now lives in Spain.

I received a lovely email saying how she loves my blog and how i have helped her through a tough time in her life. she asked me how ive gained my confidence back and how ive managed to get my life on track again after my own issues.

Well Marie this ones for you 🙂

Recently i joined the positive body movement along side many celebrities and fellow bloggers to empower not only just women but men also to feel comfortable in their own skin.

We all have to be honest at some stage in our life’s we have been judgmental of other people their bodies , style and personalities in fact its not acceptable but unfortunately its human nature and freedom of speech but we as humans can choose to listen or not to listen to other peoples perceptions of ourselves.

A few of the main factors people comment on are weight, body shape and size of clothing.

The question i want to ask you all is …..

Does it really affect the person who is making negative comments on the other person or does it affect the person they are commenting about.

The fact here is that words cut deep and the mental stress caused on the victim can cause long lasting trauma and really dent someone’s self esteem.

I know this because ive been subjected to negative comments in the past about my body my weight and the way it works after having children.

And yes it did affected my confidence massively but i also accepted that it didn’t matter what i did people would always comment about me and my life my size doesn’t define me as a person and quite frankly it says more about the negative comments someone can openly say without thinking of the consequence’s.

I also grew thick skin as long as i felt comfortable in my own skin i really couldn’t give a crap what other people say anymore if we was all made the same way the world would be pretty boring.

The world is more adaptable now its not just fat or thin its everything in between and fashion has become more adaptable to different shapes and sizes why can’t a curvy girl wear same as a slim girl there isn’t any law against it , all come down to confidence and allowing to be who you truly are the fact is your always going to get judged its the world we live in but choosing to give a crap what others think comes back to us.

I know not everyone has the strength to ignore negativity from other’s but honestly the only person that matters is you when it comes to your body its your body at the end of the day.

Now loosing weight and getting healthy i do agree on but it must come from within not influenced by others do it for you and not to show others.

There isn’t a right or wrong way to loose weight by health officials but loosing weight slowly is better than loosing weight to quickly plus you have a better chance of keeping at your target by loosing slowly than quickly.

I have to say there isn’t any pill that will make you loose weight trust me ive tried it all comes down to food choices and keeping active.

So back to the self love.. How can another human being love you if you don’t love yourself.

Life’s definitely to short to be worried what other people think.

Now I couldn’t give a crap if people say things to me I honestly think its comical because they really must have some deep rooted insecurities to pick out other people’s

Just stay strong and keep being you no matter what and remember to show yourself some love.

And…..

Do you read love?? 🤔 Erm no I don’t…

Hey all if you made it to Monday night you survived another dreaded start of week and made it out alive..

Bit of a rant this evening well its more like personal preference over 🔞 only sorry…

Can I just ask does anyone else hate group chats?

Omg they are the vain of my life not checked my phone most the day due to the fact I have to do this going to work crap for the rest of my life gets home after back and forth from school run plus work inbetween to my phone going ping ping ping faster than a aldi till on a Saturday morning.

I’m like oh my actual god what can be so important that it needs such a fast response.

Well what can I actually say I wasted 30 mins of my life reading down 300 messages about sausage rolls, cat sick and what book everyone’s into.

I mean like come on who adds someone to talk utter crap about nothing.

The fact is ide absolutely love to read a book every now and again but not everyone has the time to sit and read a bloody book.

Half these women I don’t even know in this chat may I add and that’s 30 mins of my life I will never get back cheers love but I’ve wasted enough time already.

To be honest I was more upset I couldn’t join in conversation about sausage rolls as I can’t eat them anymore but that’s life. 😂 (greggs)

I’ve got nothing against stay at home mums I have to say this but please spare a thought for the working mums who have no choice but to work and may not have the spare time to talk utter bollox about cat sick and weither gills been seeing the Gardener behind her husbands back.

I’ve really got better things to be doing.

I’m pretty sure it’s clear I hate group chats they are crap they make people paranoid and grouchy.

Unless it has a point to it like planning event or night out don’t do it for your own sanity.

Just in case your all wondering I left the chat and deleted end of rant no more 🐂💩 stacie can go to sleep knowing she’s got rid of a bit more negativty from her life.

Anyway tommrow is a new day let’s be more postive and avoid people think that’s the key to a successful life.

Love to you all

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 xxx