Its my skin not your skin

“Self Love Is Accepting That The Body You Where Given Is Enough & Taking Care Of Your Body Isn’t The Same Thing As Obsessively Manipulating It “

Evening all its Tuesday and today wasn’t so bad just busy at work as normal ive not long sat down and ive managed to catch up with emails and messages.

I have been contacted by a lovely lady who moved from the U.K and now lives in Spain.

I received a lovely email saying how she loves my blog and how i have helped her through a tough time in her life. she asked me how ive gained my confidence back and how ive managed to get my life on track again after my own issues.

Well Marie this ones for you 🙂

Recently i joined the positive body movement along side many celebrities and fellow bloggers to empower not only just women but men also to feel comfortable in their own skin.

We all have to be honest at some stage in our life’s we have been judgmental of other people their bodies , style and personalities in fact its not acceptable but unfortunately its human nature and freedom of speech but we as humans can choose to listen or not to listen to other peoples perceptions of ourselves.

A few of the main factors people comment on are weight, body shape and size of clothing.

The question i want to ask you all is …..

Does it really affect the person who is making negative comments on the other person or does it affect the person they are commenting about.

The fact here is that words cut deep and the mental stress caused on the victim can cause long lasting trauma and really dent someone’s self esteem.

I know this because ive been subjected to negative comments in the past about my body my weight and the way it works after having children.

And yes it did affected my confidence massively but i also accepted that it didn’t matter what i did people would always comment about me and my life my size doesn’t define me as a person and quite frankly it says more about the negative comments someone can openly say without thinking of the consequence’s.

I also grew thick skin as long as i felt comfortable in my own skin i really couldn’t give a crap what other people say anymore if we was all made the same way the world would be pretty boring.

The world is more adaptable now its not just fat or thin its everything in between and fashion has become more adaptable to different shapes and sizes why can’t a curvy girl wear same as a slim girl there isn’t any law against it , all come down to confidence and allowing to be who you truly are the fact is your always going to get judged its the world we live in but choosing to give a crap what others think comes back to us.

I know not everyone has the strength to ignore negativity from other’s but honestly the only person that matters is you when it comes to your body its your body at the end of the day.

Now loosing weight and getting healthy i do agree on but it must come from within not influenced by others do it for you and not to show others.

There isn’t a right or wrong way to loose weight by health officials but loosing weight slowly is better than loosing weight to quickly plus you have a better chance of keeping at your target by loosing slowly than quickly.

I have to say there isn’t any pill that will make you loose weight trust me ive tried it all comes down to food choices and keeping active.

So back to the self love.. How can another human being love you if you don’t love yourself.

Life’s definitely to short to be worried what other people think.

Now I couldn’t give a crap if people say things to me I honestly think its comical because they really must have some deep rooted insecurities to pick out other people’s

Just stay strong and keep being you no matter what and remember to show yourself some love.

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