It is what it is…

Hey everyone ❤️

I really hope you have been having a good week.

Mines not been to good emotions running high.

Typical introvert thing to do is shut myself down and push everything and everyone else away.

I’ve actually got so low I’ve now got a viral infection.

After such a good weekend with friends it was the first time I actually dreaded coming home.

That’s very unlike me…

I’m in a stage of my life where I’m not actually happy with anything apart from having my girls and even that is very testing at times.

Today I want to be postive beacuse it’s #timetotalk2020 day.

Wouldn’t life be so much easier if there was people who would just listen and not judge what your going through.

It’s very hard to just cheer up or get over situations in life it doesn’t quite work out that way.

And I agree it must be hard for loved ones and friends to know the signs that someone is so damaged and not having a clue what to say to someone or what to do for someone who’s feeling that way.

Some people who don’t like me are probably reading my blog and thinking she’s sad again and I’ve won she’s broken.

Truth is I’ve always been broken that’s from my heart but what people don’t understand is that it takes one gesture one kind word or a bit of advice to start healing process.

Truth be told I’ve not got a lot of genuine people in my life.

I’ve made that mistake of letting people in far to many times for them to miss interpret me as some kind of monster.

I’m not I’m human we all say and do the wrong thing sometimes it’s natural.

You get to a stage in life where you think it’s really not working anymore everything in your life makes an impact on your future.

And time is precious.

This year was all about me becoming someone I’ve always dreamt of being not holding back, doing what I want a love.

Apparently it’s called a blip….

I call it repeatedly wasting time on energy on people and situations that make you feel terrible.

Society today has a great way of making you feel guilty for actually wanting to change your life.

Who’s genuine who’s not, who wishes you well, who’s ready to stab you in back.

They say it’s called life… Erm think sometimes it’s hell.

I really hope that if your reading my blog and you feel similar to myself.. I hope you have someone to listen and talk too.

Not everyone’s terrible there are some genuinely nice people out there to help.

But me I’m just exhausted..

I wouldn’t say I’m clinically depressed I’ve just had enough of this hamster wheel and I want to get off.

If your feeling down or low in mood or you feel differently about life talk to someone you trust or seek help from clinical support.

You would be surprised how brave you actually are talking the first steps to recovery.

Love to you all 😊 ❤️❤️❤️

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

Amor entre amigos

Afternoon all ❤️

I hope you all have had a good weekend.

I’m currently sat on the train home after a brilliant night out back home in Birmingham UK.

As always fantastic company it was great to spend quality time with friends.

I felt amazing and I looked great too.

I haven’t felt good about myself for a long time and I have to thank my friend clair and her husband Andy for their great hospitality and her fabulous makeup artist #beautybyshix check out her Instagram…

If your in the Birmingham area and your looking for a make up artist she’s amazing.

I don’t normally like my make up done but honstly i loved it.

My lashes where done by Sarah at glow in my home town.

So back to the night out I wore a lovely skirt and boots with a black top again something different for me.. 2020 is really about coming out my comfort zone.

So the venue well omg the vibe was amazing my freind picked the venue as it was her birthday but she picked well.

The place was…

Revolución de Cuba Birmingham

It was absolutely packed full of people music was great and we even made it in time for 2 for 1 cocktails.

We drank we danced we laughed beacuse that’s what we always do when ever we all are together.

To me that’s true freindship.

I would highly recommend Revolución de Cuba Birmingham

If your heading for a night out in Birmingham it was a great night.

Thanks to my lovely friends for a fantastic time will look forward to the next one ❤️❤️

Here’s a few pics from last night thanks for reading.

Sending love

Stacie xxx

Elevate..

elevate, elevate
Only obligation is to tell it straight
Me and all the girls found a better way
This for life, bih, we can never separate
I’m in bed awake, thinkin’ how’d I make
All this happen for myself and my family
All this happen for myself and my family
There’s no way that this is real, man, it can’t be.

Drake (Elevate)

Evening all life’s good 👌👌

For now but I’m feeling the vibes.

Progress is progress however big or small it is its the way that it impacts you and your life that makes a difference.

Forget how far you have got to go and remember how much you have grown.

I’m looking forward to ending the week going back home and celebrating with good friends.

I’m going to let my hair down and be free for atleast 48 hours.

Which means laughing drinking and dancing.

I’m not going to think about anything or anyone and just enjoy being me.

Ive been so busy looking back I’ve not really had the realisation of how far I’ve actually got in my life and what I’ve achieved.

Then realisation hits and it’s like wow I made shit happen, it wasn’t just a dream but I actually accomplished it.

That’s pretty awesome now I’ve realise it and I know my mum and dad will be glad I’ve finally realised my worth.

I’ve been working through some dark areas in my life and really working on myself.

I’ve found 👇👇👇

I think life’s just one massive mess that you need to constantly need to sift through and you have to think yes but do I really need it and does that really serve me purpose.

All of us can make something of ourselves we just need the motivation and support and the will to achieve what we want.

I will be blogging all about my trip home and how I deal with hangovers in the near future.

Sending you all hugs …

Love to you all.

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️

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All the same

Your life can change in an instant. that instant can last forever.

Hey I know I’ve already posted today but I couldn’t not do a late night post after there’s so many emotions being shared.

I just wanted to say I wasn’t a massive fan on basketball but after recent events.

I just wanted to send out my love to the Bryant family to loose a father a husband a son is one thing but to loose a daughter and a sister and a granddaughter too in the same tragic event is devastating.

Not forgetting the other passengers that also tragically lost their life’s also.

You know when we loose an icon in the world great emotional balance between humanity brings a sense of peace and I hope comfort to the loved ones of the people that are no longer with us.

Think we forget that just because we are put into levels on how much money we have in the bank it doesn’t make us grieve any different it makes us all human all as one.

If only we take a second to stop and look at what and who we have around us at times it maybe hard and frustrating but for what and who are you greatful for in your life at that exact moment in that exact place in time.

Life can change in a spilt second that’s how quick our worlds can turn upside down.

You have to live for each day be thankful for who you have in your life and what you have achieved.

You work hard you see the benefits.

You love the people around you even if at times they aren’t so loverble.

You remain humble and true to who you are.

You take risks even if there’s regret.

You live life you cherish it.

Beacuse in an instant it can all change just like that.


Pain doesn’t tell you when you ought to stop. Pain is the little voice in your head that tries to hold you back because it knows if you continue you will change.

Kobe bryant

1978/2020

Love to you all

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ xxx

#seashellsandlipglossblog

Masterpiece

You’re ripped at every edge but you’re a masterpiece.

Evening all ❤️

Weekends go so fast…

Has anyone here ever felt like your a complete mess and you haven’t got your shit together.

Well welcome to a little thing we called life without me trying to sound harsh.

We all need a reality check sometimes when the rose tinted glasses have cracked.

And you see everything you have been trying to ignore and fake just opens your eyes to the truth.

It’s a difficult pill to swallow but it has to be done in order for you to find out who you are.

They say equal amounts of ego and understanding is healthy but to much ego brings out the worst in people.

You can still be amazing and have equal balance in life.

Respect yourself enough to know that the love you hold for yourself is most important.

Before you can allow anyone else to love you, you must love yourself enough to know you are enough and nothing more or less than a masterpiece and your in control of your own destiny.

Connections with other human beings are important but never give yourself less love and appreciation to fit in with another human beings life.

Every part of you is beautiful however flawed and complicated you are.

So I’m a curvy women I never had any respect for myself I gave myself away freely to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know my self worth I know who I am is enough.

How I portray myself on my blog and in my real life is the true interpretation of me and my soul, my emotions and my views.

I’m not just a vessel for my soul.

I’m a passionate, funny, strong unquie being and when I offer myself to someone completely our souls have align for a reason.

Always remember to respect yourself and love yourself unconditionally no one is perfect we all have flaws we all have regrets but take chances have no regrets belief comes from within.

Have a fabulous Monday everyone.

Love to you all

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

The day everything made sense…

Hey everyone ❤️

I’m just going to go right in here and say I’ve had a light bulb moment but this time it made perfect sense.

Someone called me something today and at first I didn’t really understand what they meant by it.

But when Iooked further into the meaning it seemed to weigh me up perfectly.

The word was that I’m an introvert

I’m going to be honest I was a little bit taken back.

I’m not big on fancy words my education was OK not fantastic.

I kind of went through the messing around stage last few years of highschool fell in with wrong crowd and boyfriends taking up valuable time.

So me and fancy words don’t mix..

Thank god for Google.

So what’s is an introvert??

An introvert prefers to spend time alone in order to recharge their inner being.

An introvert may appear to be shy to others, but that is not necessarily an accurate label.

Being among groups of friends, family and even strangers can be wonderfully stimulating and joyous occasions. Interacting with people and attention to multiple sources of stimuli tends to draw down an introvert energy causing them to eventually withdraw to spend time alone to re-energize.

Small talk and pointless conversations tend to draw down an introvert’s energy rapidly.

An introvert prefers to work alone making them more efficient and happier in their job role.

Biggest pet peev is someone moaning about a situation but not doing anything to change situation.

I didn’t actually get what was wrong with me until someone else pointed out they have noticed my traits.

The thing is I choose to share my time with people I actually love and respect.

When disrespected I withdraw to protect my own wellbeing.

Walls go up and nobody gets in.

I completely shut down.

I wouldn’t say I’m overly shy I say my piece but I think alot before I say the things I need to say.

This is pretty much why I’m on edge with people and that ends up looking like I’m cold and distant with people.

Sometimes you don’t need alot of people in your life to live a happy one.

So also If you ever try and ring me I will watch it ring out and let it hit voicemail then txted what you want.

Stacie hates talking on the phone again another sigh of an introvert.

Anyway it’s Friday tommrow payday….

And another weekend to relax before my trip back home for My friends birthday 🎂.

Have a good one all.

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️

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#life

10 steps to completely changing your life for the better.

Evening all ❤️

Hope you are all well.

I just wanted to share with you ten steps that I feel will work in completely change your life for the better.

So straight to it

1. You need to establish what and who are important in your life.

What do they or the situation bring to your life is it warmth and kindness, support & love.

Or does the person in question or does the situation in question bring you stress and worry, heartbreak & anxiety.

Cut it off cut the cord that ties you to the situation or the negative people that surround you don’t give your precious energy to a situation or a person who doesn’t deserve It.

2. Detox from social media completely remove yourself from the whole situation and pointless scrolling through people’s unessary behaviour.

People only share with the world what they choose to share you don’t see dark times in a person’s life unless they are very open to talking about their experiences with the world.

You don’t need validation from the world that your a good person.

I’ve found the less you care what people think of you the easier life will become.

A total detox is needed to allow yourself to heal and remove the negativity completely.

 

3. Focus on you and what makes you happy it’s very easy to get wrapped up in other people’s lives and situations but in all honesty if your own vessels is taking hits for other people how are you allowing time to yourself to enjoy your own life.

Trying to find an outlet is hard after so long of putting up with other peoples rubbish and negative emotions.

But I find singing, drawing, writing and having things to mentally distract you starts the healing process we are not then thinking what if and what will they think.

The focus needs to start from home and within.

4. Speak up with honesty and stop holding back what you think.

People may believe that honesty won’t win you many friends–but even if that were true, the friends you make with honesty will be the right ones. Honesty is the cornerstone of all success, without which confidence and the ability to perform cannot exist.

5. Forgive those who have hurt you but change who you surround yourself with.

You can improve your life just by changing the people you surround yourself with. If there are some who have brought negativity or hurt into your life, accept that those actions cannot be changed or undone or forgotten–only forgiven. Take it as a lesson learned and surround yourself with people who support you, guide you and make you better than you already are.

 

7. Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go higher than you think.

What you think is what you become. And the sad truth is that that most of us are our own worst enemy, allowing our negative thoughts to hold us back. If you load up on positivity and great thoughts, you can create positive and great things for yourself. If you want to change and change fast, start by changing how you think.

8. Find success at the edge of your comfort zone.

Regardless of our hesitation or fear, humans need change to be happy. Try to do something you’ve never done every single day. Don’t be afraid to try new things and stand in your discomfort zone. If you want something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.

9. Remember that it’s not how many mistakes you’ve made but what you learn from them that defines you.

Accept that you won’t always make the right decisions. You’ll screw up, sometimes badly. But your mistakes doesn’t mean you’ve failed, only that you’re trying and learning in life. If you are not making mistakes it means you are not trying hard enough. When you learn from them, mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.

10. Don’t compare your own life with anyone else’s.

A big source of unhappiness is the idea that other people’s lives are better or easier than yours. But when you compare your situation to that of others, you’re comparing your complete reality to their surface. No matter how fantastic, how happy, how brilliant everything may seem on the outside, you never know what’s going on the inside If you find yourself being jealous of someone, remember that person has struggled with hardships and insecurities just as you have.

 

I hope you take note of this post and know your a fabulous human being and its your God given right to protect yourself and your wellbeing.

Love to yo all 😘

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️

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Wretched

Evening all ❤️

Before I start just want you all to know I’m not currently feeling sorry for myself or nor am I eating a box of tesco cereal in my biggest pair of knickers I own.

Bit of a light hearted post tonight plus a bit of moaning too….

We all love a good moan don’t we.

I literally have the weirdest conversations with people jumps of one extreme to the other.

One thing I really struggle with is food.

One person said to me why are you so miserable all the time?

Well I have to say to have you ever tried gluten free & wheat free products.

Yeah and it tastes like your actual souls left your body after one bite.

It’s like eating washing up sponge honestly I can’t grasp this whole new food relationship it’s worst than some of past love connections that’s pretty bad.

Even though I’ve lost weight and I have less pain not being able to eat normal food is the vain of my life.

Sitting in restaurant you see people ordering normal food I ask for gluten free option might aswell just bring me a paper plate.

I know it’s all for my health but this is why I’m miserable whole thing takes effort and time.

All I can say is never ever try soybean pasta…

It must if been made by the devil himself to punish people.

Next moan…

Social media I’ve blogged about this before but it’s being used in all the wrong ways but ladies this ones for you.

What is it about the opposite sex and body parts been thrown about in all locations.

Now I’m not saying it’s all women’s bugbear but for me it’s a massive no no I’m not into that at all.

Going about my daily business checking my messages, comments & request of advice and up pops a absolutely vile exposure picture..

Think to yourself omg what kind of person are you to be doing things like that.

Fair enough if the other person reciprocate but don’t just send it out in the universe to people just going about their daily lives.

Nothing more offensive than that to me puts me right off people and even engaging in conversations with people like that.

Not in sound mind people who do things like that.

I’m actually so glad it’s wendsday getting closer to seeing my friend again and their friends too…

Going out for a night out…

Again heres another conversation this time with younger friend of mine.

He said to me oh its great isn’t it going out love the vibe few drinks good music.

He Said Stace how do you get on with going out now like I’m past my shelf date or something I’m not ready for my slippers and coco just yet and in bed asleep for nine.

Well how do you dance so I said you know that scene from the ibetweeners movie….

Yeah bit like that… How do you think I dance.

I have to admit depends on where you go bars, clubs etc wheb it’s full of young kids you do feel bit old.

But still plenty of life left in me yet.

I honestly don’t know how I get through life some days but I find the lighthearted humour helps.

Laugh even when your find it hard too.

Find the funny side of things but then still I feel 👇👇👇👇

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️

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Yo operator, or innovator

Evening all ❤️

It’s Monday calling you can either control it or let it control you….

Ain’t the human soul a beautiful but complex formation.

What we allow to consume is within our own power you have to stand up and fight even if you feel you have nothing else to give…

We all need to elevate progress otherwise we go round in circles.

One thing I’ve realised is that people will always judge you for doing to much or to less.

Life’s not meant to be all on one level it’s how you handle the situation weither you remain positive or negative this has a massive impact on the outcome.

The thing is the truth is right here with me…

I’m blessed to be alive.

I’m blessed to have my family.

I’m blessed to have a few close friends.

I’m blessed to have a home and food in my body.

Materialistic stuff don’t matter.

Keeping up appearances doenst matter.

Competition doesn’t matter.

It’s the way of life to be the best person you can be for yourself.

It’s not how the storm affects you it’s how you carry it that matters.

You have haters good means you stood for the truth and for what you believe in.

Yes I’m feeling philosophical

But I’m just sick of the bullshit ain’t you.

Sick of closed of minds.

Negative attitudes.

Don’t surround yourself with people like this.

Surround yourself by true freindship, true love and for the love of God…..

I’ve got no more room in my heart for anymore heartbreak only for love.

No more room left in my mind for negative thoughts.

This is life and the end is final so live life for you.

So next few weeks I’m going to embrace with both arms open and greet it with positive vibes.

Have a great Monday everyone…

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

Inhibition

Here is life we are free..

Here’s a little story about him and me..

The very truth in all its glory..

The pain the sadness in our story..

It was not real and now I’m sorry…

For this is my truth and my worry..

I tried too much I know that now..

At times I was an evil cow..

I feel you too was very unkind…

Thats why we left it all behind..

The thing is that you don’t see..

I understood you…

But you never understood me..

Your quirky ways..

Your stupid grin..

Your annoying desire to always win..

To your darkest hours and your brightest light.

Still I never managed to get anything right.

Now I know it’s quite and I’m free.

I can be the person I’m meant to be.

Your out there in the universe.

I really think I’ve come off worse.

I just didn’t loose someone I once knew.

You failed to see my point of view.

That day I lost someone I hold dear.

2019 was my hardest year..

Letting go is the key.

It’s the end of the line for you and me.

I just wanted you to know I just wanted you to see..

I’m now a better version of me.

Now I just have one thing left to say is that I’m sorry in every way.

I’m not scared nor am I sad.

You changed my life completely even though you made me mad.

We shared some great moments and that’s what outweighs the bad.

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