Cuppa tay!

𝕊𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕕𝕒𝕪 ❤️

You can go
You can start all over again
You can try to find a way to make another day go by
You can hide
Hold all your feelings inside
You can try to carry on when all you want to do is cry

And maybe someday
We’ll figure all this out
Try to put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to make things better now, and
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow
Someday

Now wait
And try to find another mistake
If you throw it all away then maybe you can change your mind
You can run, oh
And when everything is over and done
You can shine a little light on everything around you
Man it’s good to be someone

And I don’t want to wait
I just want to know
I just want to hear you tell me, so
Give it to me straight
Tell it to me slow

‘Cause maybe someday
We’ll figure all this out
We’ll put an end to all our doubt
Try to find a way to just feel better now, and
Maybe someday we’ll live our lives out loud
We’ll be better off somehow
Someday

‘Cause sometimes we don’t really notice
Just how good it can get
So maybe we should start all over
Start all over again

‘Cause sometimes we don’t really notice
Just how good it can get
So maybe we should start all over
Start all over again.

Click link below to listen to this amazing track…

Someday rob thomas

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#music

ℝ𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕚𝕘𝕟𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥

Evening all ❤️

I hope you have all had a good day.

This week feels like it’s gone so quickly.

The week didn’t start of too well but towards the end of the week I feel postive happy and determined to really make a change in my life..

I’m so fed up of putting everyone else first.

Constantly working and running around after other people.

I’ve always been used to not having much support that’s not a dig to my family but I’ve always coped on my own with the girls.

They have always come first and my home has always come first and I’ve always wanted my girls to have the best I can possibly provide for them.

But something I’ve not been doing is looking after me and my own wellbeing.

I’ve put a lot of things aside the past few months to help others and enough is enough.

I did loose a bit of self confidence but I feel I’m getting stronger and back to my old self every day.

I’ve been mostly bothered about my health and my body and I really want to shift this last 2 stone of weight but atm it’s been very hard to find the motivation.

But I just keep telling myself…

I’m super excited I’ve ordered my first fasting program I’m fully aware it’s not a quick fix but with my body and other health issues it’s hard for my body to kick start into ketosis.

I’ve heard so many people’s reviews on this program it seems not to be some fad dieting.

But it helps ketosis kick in which helps actually shift the pounds and not just out your bank account it’s actually very affordable.

You can start on 7 days plans to 30 day plans but I’ve been advised not to do it for any longer than 10 days.

I have to add I’ve not been gifted this program I’ve paid for it myself out of my hard earned cash.

But I’m excited to review 😊

I will also be reviewing the St tropez bronzing gel in a few days which I was gifted.

Everyone who knows me knows I love a tan…

I will be back to singing again and songwriting again soon.

Alongside me continuing to write my book and poetry.

It’s time to start putting me first and realigning my soul again.

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

99 letters that I wrote to you.

Courage Above Fear

Evening all ❤️Monday wasn’t really that bad afterall.Life has taken an unexpected turn for the better.After all I’ve started on one of my main projects for 2020.Writing my book I have mixed emotions about my book eventhough I’m excited to press forward with it all.But im also very nervous beacuse some of my most private situations and experiences will be included.I’ve chosen this path for myself beacuse it’s the only way I know how to express my feelings.I’ve gave it a lot of thought but if my story even helps one other person in the world I’ve done good.I don’t require to be famous I have no desire for a blue tick.All I want to do is share my experiences with others for my own healing and to help others understand that they are not alone.I’ve left it short and sweet tonight I’m absolutely shattered but I will be blogging regularly again soon.Love to you all 😊Stacie 🐚 💋 💄#seashellsandlipglossblog

𝕀𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕘𝕠𝕥 𝕖𝕟𝕠𝕦𝕘𝕙 𝕥𝕚𝕞𝕖 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕞𝕖 .

Evening all ❤️

I have to apologise for my lack of blogging but I’ve not been in the right frame of mind to share my feelings and thoughts with you all.

It’s been a hectic few weeks.

And I just haven’t found the heart to talk about it.

I just want to comment quickly on recent events it’s very sad that someone found no other way out of her own darkness but to end her life and that’s extremely sad situation.

Unfortunately this is happening somewhere every 90 minutes someone in UK chooses to end there own life.

The causes in some cases are unknown we can only speculate on the situation but the truth is sadly no longer available.

In a world where everything is evolving people are changing its very hard to be strong within negative situations.

It doesn’t excuse people’s behaviour nor people’s opinions of others but in a world where people are unkind and cruel be the light.

As light will always overcome the darkness.

In the end we all want to be loved & understood even in the darkness as we are in the light.

Be kind to one another beacuse love won’t always win but compassion and respect will, one word can mean so much or it can completely break someone so choose Wisely.

Everyone has done things they regret in life the spare of the moments decisions the ones we don’t really put much thought into.

Where we let our emotions take over.

The things that we have said we can’t take back its all part of being human.

Pain and hurt is a very mixed emotional experience.

It’s the kind of experience where you will forever kick yourself for what you have said or done..

We all have something or someone we will never be able to fully let go of.

Just always know there is two sides to every story before you allow yourself to take all the blame.

From my experience I don’t think my heart will ever fully heal but if I have keep going then that’s all I can do.

Never ask someone to let go of someone or a situation just because you need them to.

Let them focus on their own healing.

I wish one day my heart will be as one again.

In the mean time I just have to keep evolving growing spiritually.

Mentally I know I can’t always be strong and that’s OK.

I can keep trying to fill that void.

But deep down I know my soul is incomplete.

So if your reading know I will always have time enough for you but will you have time enough for me…

Please check out the link below for this amazing song with hidden message..

haevn we are youtube link

Love to you all ♥️💕💔

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

#bekindtooneanother

#heartbreak

𝕂𝕖𝕖𝕡 𝕝𝕠𝕠𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕨𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕖 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕝𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥 𝕡𝕠𝕦𝕣𝕤 𝕚𝕟.

Today was dark there was no light.

I woke within a state of fight or flight.

As I sat alone and sad.

My mind twisted from good to bad.

Im sick of people saying you will be alright.

But it’s dark inside here in my mind therfore there is no light.

As my anxiety swollow’s me whole.

At every occasion it takes away my soul.

And peice by peice I felt so lost.

But what will it all cost.

The love I’ve lost the pain I’ve caused.

People’s life’s I’ve felt I’ve paused.

What will it take…

For me to break for me to give in.

This is my body and my soul I stand in my own skin.

Therfore the healing I must allow to begin.

I know there is light amongst the dark.

I must find my fight I must find my spark.

It won’t be easy it won’t be quick.

But now I’m tired and my soul is sick.

I want my life back and these feelings to dissappear.

I want you to understand me I need you near.

Support is the key and the window to my soul.

If you can’t help me fight the darkness then please let me go.

There is no room for anymore hurt or pain.

I’m ready to close the book and to start again.

I know it won’t be easy I know I will have to fight.

But I know if I just keep looking I know I’ll find the light.

Stacie Leanne 15th February 2020#poetry
#seashellsandlipglossblog.

𝔹𝕦𝕣𝕟𝕥 𝕆𝕦𝕥

Evening all ❤️

Weekends go so fast to bloody fast.

Well what a end to a vile few days it’s been.

I’ve been so poorly I’m actually discusted in myself for abusing my body for so long.

Just need to pre warn you this post will be over 🔞 only….

I would like to think be being my authentic self makes people relate and understand me a bit more.

My blog is real life and in real life I do like to express myself freely even using swear words from time to time.

So if you don’t like swearing please don’t read past this point I wouldn’t want to offend anyone.

Over the last few months I’ve really tried my hardest to get on with life like most people do from day to day.

But by over projecting myself in to certain parts of my life I’ve actually done more damage to myself than good.

I’ve overworked and overwhelmed my body as a part of my coping mechanism.

I didn’t actually think the term burnt out was an actual psychical and psychological medical term for overdoing things.

But it really is an actual problem.

You just keep going keep fighting just to get through another day.

Then your body just says no now that’s enough slow down time out.

For me it’s not the task in hand that I can’t cope with it’s not my job either or my kids it’s just everything.

And sometimes you just end up exploding like a mint in a coke bottle.

With no warning it just happens life gets to much.

It may seem like I moan alot about life…

But I am healthy 🤔 sort off…

I am warm and I have a roof over my head.

I’ve got two amazing, kind and bright children also in good health.

What can I possibly moan about.

How can I possibly keep burning myself out trying to over project in certain areas of my life.

Well it’s just me I try to do too much and the issue is that I do actually care alot about people and situations that probably don’t feel the same in return.

I also try and cover up my own issues by throwing myself into something else that’s where I become even more overwhelmed.

What is burnout?

Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands. As the stress continues, you begin to lose the interest and motivation that led you to take on a certain role in the first place.

Burnout reduces productivity and saps your energy, leaving you feeling increasingly helpless, hopeless, cynical, and resentful. Eventually, you may feel like you have nothing more to give.

The negative effects of burnout spill over into every area of life including your home, work, and social life.

Burnout can also cause long-term changes to your body that make you vulnerable to illnesses like colds and flu. Because of its many consequences, it’s important to deal with burnout right away.

Physical signs and symptoms of burnout

Feeling tired and drained most of the time
Lowered immunity, frequent illnesses
Frequent headaches or muscle pain
Change in appetite or sleep habits.

Emotional signs and symptoms of burnout.

Sense of failure and self-doubt
Feeling helpless, trapped, and defeated
Detachment, feeling alone in the world
Loss of motivation.

Increasingly cynical and negative outlook
Decreased satisfaction and sense of accomplishment.

Behavioral signs and symptoms of burnout.

Withdrawing from responsibilities
Isolating yourself from others
Procrastinating, taking longer to get things done

Using food, drugs, or alcohol to cope
Taking out your frustrations on others
Skipping work or coming in late and leaving early.

10 ways to prevent a burn out

1. Figure out which kind of burnout you have
2. Cut down and start saying “no.”
3. Give up on getting motivated

With real burnout mode, you’re too exhausted to stay positive. So don’t:

4. Treat the disease, not the symptoms.

For real recovery and prevention to happen, you need to find the real, deeper issue behind why you’re burnt out.

5. Make downtime a daily ritual.
6. Stop being a perfectionist; start satisficing.
7. Track your progress every day.
8. Change location often.

9. Don’t overload what downtime you do get.

10. Break projects into bite-sized pieces.

It’s actually horrific to think that our own mental wellbeing fights against our bodies until our bodies say..

And there isn’t anything we can do but listen and take time out for our bodies to heal and our souls to rest.

It’s absolutely bloody important that we listen to ourselves and our bodies you keep pushing you will end up in the stages of a burn out its not nice place to be in lock down for few days maybe weeks not quite feeling yourself isn’t nice you feel lost and hopeless.

My biggest problem is I need to learn to say NO or….

I’m far to understanding to situations and people who only have one goal with you is to use you for what they need then that’s that.

Being kind hearted and trying to see the best in people doesn’t always work in your favour unfortunately you have to learn the hard way.

I’m currently re evaluating my life at the moment and all aspects of it.

Sometimes we have to make choices however hard they maybe.

I’m not on this earth to be loved by everyone nor to be liked.

I’m here to be myself, to be happy and to look after myself and my family.

From now on I put myself and my family and my few close friends first.

Anything else just doesn’t matter its really not worth making yourself ill over it.

Love to you all 😊 xxx

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Sometimes!!!!

Sometimes i sit still and think.

The memories are my memories that I’d like to keep.

You can take away the love, respect and kindness.

But you can never take away my dreams and the past we left behind us.

You can keep overthinking and analysing every detail.

We just wasn’t sure we just wasn’t able.

Even through the hurt through the anger and your unstable persona.

I saw through the mask and the guard you held so high.

For my heart and soul was yours that you can’t deny.

This universe pulled us together but we both pulled apart.

The lesson here that I’d had to learn was to never give away so freely your own heart.

Healing is a long process it doesn’t happen over night.

So please be patient whist I still try and hold on to every last moment so tight.

So here it is a lesson that I learnt that love is dangerous it can get you burnt.

(Stacie Leanne 2020)

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#poem

You be the sun and I’ll be the moon.

You be the sun.

I’ll be the moon.

Just let your light come shining through.

And when the night comes.

Just like the moon.

I’ll shine the light.

Right back to you.

Love to you all 😊 ❤️❤️❤️💞💕

10 ways to spot a catfish.

Evening all ❤️

I’m currently blogging from the comfort of a nice hot bath trying to get rid of this vile viral infection..

Since I’ve been or sick I’ve been binge watching two series one is the crown on nextflix and the other is the famous mtv show catfish.

I absolutely can’t get the back of why anyone would want to catfish anyone!

Too much effort to many lies..

I’ve never even been tempted to check out an ex using a fake account after a breakup their an ex for a reason who cares what they are doing and who they are seeing.

What you don’t see can’t piss you off right!!!!

That to me is 💯 true don’t engage with it don’t let it get to you life becomes less negative and you fill your time more productively.

Back to catfish well just incase you guys and girls haven’t blessed your eyes and ears with such vulnerability here is what’s catfishing means…

What is a catfish?

A catfish is a fake or stolen online identinty created by a person and used for the purposes of beginning a deceptive relationship.

Not all cases are as they seem but most of the people are very vulnerable and actually madly in love with someone they have never met in person.

I personally couldn’t project that much of my time and engery into something that to me doenst seem genuinely real.

It’s probably pretty harsh of me to judge but I truly believe you couldn’t just fall in love with a picture?

After a few failed relationships I actually feel you need get to know someone before the love and trust is their between you both and you have to actually spent time in person with the person in question to know and understand what they are like.

Anyone can hide who they are online.

Here comes to the important part the theory and the the 10 steps on how to know when you have a catfish swimming around you…

So the theory!!!

You log on to you social accounts check your emails and dm’s and you get this random cute guy or girl send you a friends request or a follow, you think there’s nothing to loose so why not and you accept maybe hour later you get a dm or a few likes on old and new pictures on Instagram.

You think oh well they must like what they see so you just go about your day then the dm comes..

‘hey how are you BTW you look very cute in your pictures I love your Instagram so inspiring’.

Beacuse your not rude you respond with a hey thanks for the follow and the dm and the nice comments what brings you to my profile.

Response goes on back and forth for maybe hours days and weeks maybe months.

And you try find out more about them but when you get too personal they close off.

You feel a connection to them even though they don’t have a lot of pictures or friends etc the idea of someone showing you attention and love really makes you like this person more.

So you ask to meet they always brush off the conversation or agree to meet but never show up!!

Fustrating right well this is where nev and max come in USA are so lucky they actually have a team of people who actually help vulnerable people either confront the catfish and move on with life or actually unite people who actually genuinely are the real deal.

75% of them turn out to be catfish.

It’s not sweet Tiffany who’s 25 has her own house and drives a fancy sports car.

It’s Timothy who’s 58 lives in his mums basement and who can’t get his arse on a push bike.

I’m Sorry but that’s the harsh truth and the reality of the Internet you can be anyone you want to be compelety the furthest away from you true self it’s unreal.

Here’s the most important part for your own wellbeing how to spot a catfish..

1.Too good to be true photos

Do they look like a model? Do they seem way too perfect to be a normal person? Search their photos using Google Search By Image – if you find the same images on lots of different sites linked to different names or if the images turn up on a stock photo site or modelling site, you might want to think twice

2. Too good to be true life

Don’t be too quick to believe everything you read. If they claim to be a brain surgeon and part time pilot, who enjoys running monthly marathons and volunteering to save the children in Africa, your alarm bells might start ringing.

3. No photos or webcam

Be alert to any profiles that offer no photos. Early in your interaction, ask them to send you a photo and if they refuse, you might become suspicious. Having a web chat is a great way to explore the level of chemistry between you. If they claim to have no access to a webcam (unusual these days), your intuition might tell you something.

4. Saying exactly what you want to hear.

Many victims report that the person said all the right things, they tapped into their deepest needs and said only positive things. We all know that ‘real people’ have flaws and tend to say a combination of positive, negative and neutral things so look out for this.

5. Too serious, too soon

Real intimacy takes time to build, it is based on trust. If they move too quickly into the realm of love and commitment, try not to be flattered. This may be a sign that they are not legitimate.

6. Asking for money

This should be a massive red flag (but unfortunately, many people are seduced by this). If they ask you for cash, this is an indicator that their intentions are based on something other than finding love – walk away!

7. Very low social media friend count

Check out their Facebook, Instagram twitter page as soon as you can. Often, when a Catfish sets up their false dating profile, they set up corresponding Facebook, Twitter and other social media accounts to demonstrate ‘social proof’ that they exist. If their other social media profiles appeared online around the same date as their dating profile, this could be an indicator of deception. If their Facebook profile has less than 100 friends or no people are tagged in their photos, this is also an indicator of a fake profile.

8. Traumatic life events

Many Catfish create elaborate stories to play on your sympathy, especially in the lead up to asking for money. Be aware of anyone who talks about major illnesses, traumas or unusual life events in the context of ‘feel sorry for me’.

9. Excuses, excuses, excuses

A key indicator of a Catfish is that they will not want to meet you in person (or via webcam). Be aware of anyone who constantly makes excuses as to why they can’t meet. A good guide is to aim to meet in person within one month of connecting online.

10. Trust your gut

Most victims of Catfish report that there were many little signs, lots of times when their gut told them NO but their heart told them YES. This is one situation where it is important to listen to your intuition, it’s there for a reason. Your unconscious mind gives you hints when it suspects someone is not the real deal, listen to it!

I know it’s a long blog post tonight but I honstly wanted to share with you how to be wise when it comes to others online.

I personally have had issues with fake profiles and I would rather the real person behind the fake profiles try and add me or contact me using their real accounts that way you can choose weither or not to respond appropriately.

Also check out mtv’s catfish series it will amaze you how vulnerable the people of this world can be when subjected to false promises and love.

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

#life

#catfish