Morning all today Im blogging about the saying holding a space.. But what does it really mean??? 🤔
Holding space means to make it about someone else. Plain and simple.
But most people can not do this. Why? Because we’re used to high jacking spaces. We’re wired to take. To want. To seek from others. We don’t want to accept someone’s opinions and worldviews if they don’t match ours. Especially if we care about them. So we try to convince, control, and manipulate. Maybe not in an obvious way. It can be very subtle. Most likely, we’re not even aware we’re doing it. But we are. We judge. We come in with our own angles, views, wants, and needs. Instead of holding space, we grab it. And sometimes, we disguise it as love.
Holding space means to be with someone without judgment. To donate your ears and heart without wanting anything back. To practice empathy and compassion. To accept someone’s truth, no matter what they are. To allow and accept. Embrace with two hands instead of pointing with one finger. To come in neutral. Open. For them. Not you. Holding space means to put your needs and opinions aside and allow someone to just be herself.
Holding space is a big deal. If people aren’t holding space for you, you are not becoming. Instead, you are surviving. And surviving isn’t living. It’s standing in comfort. Which is called being stuck.
If someone isn’t able to hold space for you, find someone who will.
In all honesty it’s very hard as human beings to give but not want to receive back but unfortunately sometimes we are put in situations where we have to it’s not a very nice place to be but it’s a learning curve in life we must all be hit with at some point.
My advice is to live not just survive do things out your comfort zone find courage from deep within to help you grow and take that leap of faith and to handle what ever the outcome maybe.
Whatever choices in life you make know at least you had taken the risk and if it works out great if not you will overcome and grow from the situation.
But least you won’t regret not taking that chance.